Tom...You sound okay today. What's your W's LL? Do you know? If the note won't do as much for her (ie...her LL is physical touch rather than words of affirmation, etc.), don't write it...cause as soon as you write it...you're gonna develop some expectations. Maybe not big ones, but some nonetheless!
Take care of you and the kids...I still think you might be a really good man (in spite of the team loyalty), and your heart's in the right place!
Hugs! Amy
Me 39 H 36 S 7 S 4 T 15 M 12 H out 8/1/08 OW confirmed 8/6/08 D final on 6/12/09...I'm doing good!
I was just getting ready to post that I was going to wait and see how long the "good" behavior would last. I decided that I verbally thanked her last night and that will suffice until such time that it becomes a more standard practice from her.
When I left this morning, she puckered her lips like she wanted a goodbye kiss. I did not oblige; but nicely told her to have a good day.
No expectations, just taking the help when I can get it. Anytime that she can muster up the will to spend and help with the kids is bonding time for them. Because of my W's possible PD tendencies; I worry about my D getting the same. If they can bond even closer, regardless our relationship; I think it's helpful in preventing any like occurrences in my D.
Thanks all. Leaving to go get BBQ; I mean work in Owensboro.
MC..hope you have a great day too and thanks for stopping by my thread
I think you are right to wait, thanking her verbally was good, and Amy had a good point about whether the note would be more for you or for your W, depending on the love language.
Enjoy your BBQ (ahem..work)!
Tawnya
Me:39 H:40 D18/S12 M20/T21 Bomb 10/11/08 One Two Three Four
Get to run wild with folks 10-15 years younger. I really need to stop that.
Why? That'll keep you young!
I love talking to the young 'uns here at work and hearing how they have their lives all figured out. If only they knew. If only I'd known then what I know now, I'd have been a little more spontaneous and had more fun. I miss driving nine hours to go see a concert in Denver or five hours to go to Dallas. So, don't give it up Tom, growing up is not fun.
M42 S12/D9 T17/M12 Bomb 1 3/22/06 Bomb 2 7/11/08 Bomb 3 7/31/08 W Filed 8/1/08 D granted 12/17/08 D Finalized 1/29/09
A man who compromises his principles never had them in the first place.
LE..don't you wish there was a way to go back to our younger selves for like a second and tell them a few things..LOL?! However, we probably wouldn't have listened anyway?! :::shrug::: whatcha gonna do? LOL
Tawnya
Me:39 H:40 D18/S12 M20/T21 Bomb 10/11/08 One Two Three Four
Well not much is going on. took S to soccer practice and McD's. Came home and ate to find that I have 5 new cats in the house. Sent a txt to the W about it. She called from work and asked about them. Said that she would clean up the mess; I'll let her. I didn't want that cat to begin with; not that I don't like her. But it is her cat. I'll let her do it. She did thank me for letting her know. Outside of calling to wake her up this morning; that is the first time I've initiated a call in I don't know when. I stay dark with her when she's not here unless I need the usual financial/kid stuff. But since I have the kids most times; that's not usually necessary.
LE..don't you wish there was a way to go back to our younger selves for like a second and tell them a few things..LOL?! However, we probably wouldn't have listened anyway?! :::shrug::: whatcha gonna do? LOL
Tawnya
No, we wouldn't have listened. In fact, I can almost remember being told things I didn't heed, now that I look back at it. Number 1 was from my sister, "you better hide your checkbook."
I'm guessing SuperMom has already outlived its lifespan. She went out for your usual Wed. night outing where the "executives" hang out. I texted her earlier in the evening about the kittens and she called the house. She made no mention of staying out; just I'll talk to you later. But I knew she would.
She never came home. I took care of the kids this morning; but I like it like this. I still prefer when she's not around; so I'm good.
