Well, it sounds that some progress was made. I have the same problems. Trying to say things to describe the actions (changes) that I have made over the last 5 months. I have struggled with the words. I have used "Would like to", "What do you think about that", "How do you feel about that". Just changing those words from "I'd like to", "This is how I think", "I want", are little things, but I have found it has a lot of effect. It has worked for me. My W said I was too controlling. These sample words changes really helped.
You may need to do something that will make him more excited to date you instead of the OW. You know him better than anyone else here. What does he like that you can do? You said, that he has a HD. Have you ridden with him? Would that be something he might like to do with you?
Another big 180 and is showing instead of tell (action) you might want to think about, away you can set up a is temporary outside kennel for your two dogs. This would be a big 180. This is something he can actually see. It will also take the dogs out of the equation. You said you are willing to do this, so try it for a while. It is just an idea.
A "tiny" chance is more than nothing and he did come to the second session. It sounds to me that he has planned to come to the next one as well. He is just talking big. His male ego is getting in his way. His anger is part of that anger along with his guilt. I do not thinks he is coming to C sessions just to save money. Part of him wants to make these changes, but the caveman inside of him is pulling him back.
Your are one more step closer. Remember P.I.G. You got them all!
You are dong good. Hang in there. EYE on The Green. VS
