Hi ladies! I'm sorry I zoned for a couple days, been fighting a sinus infection for a month that came back over the weekend. Ugh!
I am so proud of all of you. All-don't be upset about your R talk. You're a human being! Plus, I think you got some major clues about what your H is looking for in you. I would do a 180 and get into LRT mode. JJ has a great description of LRT on this board. I read it all the time. GAL will be good for you, and it sounds like your H finds that attractive about you.
Hope, I am so impressed by the strength of your girls. They stand up for themselves so beautifully, no doubt that quality comes from you. And, you are a champ with your committment to the gym:) You could have gotten needy and looked for reassurance from H after last week, but you HAVEN'T! Good for you!!!
Marisol, I read one of your posts from this weekend and it gave me goosebumps. I pray that exact prayer for OW. Those same words. I want to spread God's goodness evenly and it would feel wrong for me to ignore the other person. And, despite your hurt, you can neutrally reach out to and ask him to call your D. That was grace, for sure.
T2L, I took my first salsa class tonight!! Even though my head was booming, I forced myself to go and I absolutely loved it! H had offered to watch the kids tonight and I changed my plans yesterday, just to keep him on his toes. Last night, he offered to come this morning and take the kids to school early enough so I could run before work. I responded, thanks, but he wouldn't be here early enough for me to run and no big deal since I would be dancing tonight. He came back a couple minutes later and offered to come even earlier, and would that enable me to run? I said sure, that would be great, thanks. I was surprised by that.
When I got home tonight, I gave myself a pep talk in the car not to get needy because I'd seen positive from him this morning. But, I was bummed that he seemed genuinely happy for me about the dance class. I just said I had a blast and left it at that. I guess I wanted to see him a little jealous.
I have to tell you guys something I thought was funny from the weekend. I was in the car and on the radio was "You dropped a bomb on me" by Gap Band. The next song was by Rod Stewart, " When the one you love's in love with someone else." I thought, who the heck planned that! Thanks a lot! It made me laugh. What are the chances?
Thanks for the reminder, I need to laugh more in his presence. I've been doing a better job stating my preferences, either for family activities, my own stuff, kid decisions.
Me:33, H:34 T10, M8 S4,S3,S9m ILYBINILWY 11/07 Separation 1 2/08-8/08 Back Home 8/08-10/08 Separation 2 10/08- Too many bombs to count:(