I need to vent!! I just got a phone call from my lovely teenage 29yr. W. I mentioned her birthday is Sat. She has given me two options Wed. or Thurs. to have her party. She has said she will not see me Sat. WTF!! (sorry couldn't say that to her.) I'm proud of myself. I stayed very calm during all of this and was as nice as could be.
I said: please understand I have had the kids for the past 5 days. The house is a mess, I have to get groceries, I need to take our dog to the vet on Wed. and D needs new clothes for winter in the worst way. Why can't we celebrate it on the weekend. "I am all booked for the weekend". "Your just mad and being difficult because I'm going out with my friends for my actual Birthday." (I admit normally I would be livid - but I have been through this for along time and I'm finally reaching DETACHMENT!!! YES!! I actually feel sorry for her.)
I said it's been a hectic week so far and I want your party with me and the kids to be nice and not rushed. You will get here at 5:30 and have to leave at 7:00 to take the kids back to your place to get them ready for bed.
Her response: "unbelievable!!" "your too busy on the days I'm available for MY BIRTHDAY" "That's F@#%*ng typical!!" "You know what forget it." "Don't bother!"
I wanted to say: YOU KNOW WHAT, YOU UNGRATEFUL, IMMATURE, SELF CENTERED BRAT!!! GROW UP!! SHUT UP!! AND HAVE YOUR HAPPY BIRTHDAY WITHOUT ME. GO SPEND IT WITH YOUR SCUZZBALL FRIENDS AND BE HAPPY AFTERALL YOUR HAPPINESS IS WHAT ITS ALL ABOUT!!! No need for that though.
What I said was: I'm sorry you feel I'm being difficult. I just don't want it to be rushed, I want it to be special. I would like a little more time to get something from the kids too.
I don't know if I screwed up or not but I said (in a nice way): Do you realize what I'm trying to do for you. I've got you a very nice gift and I'm doing my best. Listen I know your hurting and stressed.(she has said this to me recently) Why have you been nasty to me for so long? Maybe when you get a minute you should sit down and ask yourself this.
She says : " I don't care about your gift you can take it and shove it!!" "I wanted to spend time w/ you!!" (Sure looks like it. I did not say this to her by the way.)
I got hit with a second F bomb run.I cut her off half way through it and said. I am not listening to this anymore. I will jump through hoops,do the splits and bend over backwards to try and make Thursday work. I'll call you tomorrow and let you know.
I wish I could have taped this call it would have been PRICELESS.
Please...anybody have any advice???
Where is the Damn red easy button in all of this!!!
