My H too lives at home. For a long time we were in the same bed, but after the last bomb, he moved into the other room. At first I was very upset about it, I spent two nights on the couch and then went back to my room. I found it relieved a lot of the tension that I knew was there but didn't understand at the time. Now we have good days and bad. Some days we talk, others it is like strangers living in the same house. He has actually been very withdrawn from me this last week and it sucks. I have yet to figure out how you can be with someone for 19 years and then just decide you don't want to talk to them. But that is the MLC, at least a part of it.
MT is a great help, always makes me laugh and it just a wonderful person. I have also met many other people on here who have helped me a great deal. It makes the days of not speaking and not having a clue what is coming down the pike a little easier.
If you focus on the past, you ruin the future. You can only live for today.
