Thanks for the luck. I hope it goes well. I'm trying not to get too jazzed because last time I was crushed when it did not work out. But I am excited. Lol.
He decided not to come to church with me but he did come over even though he was kinda being wishy washy because he was in one of his "moods" and he did not want us to fight like the last time he was in a "mood." I just said it was up to him and did not push it at all. Let him be a rubber band!!! It was hard though because I really wanted to see him (and get out of my house for awhile!) and eventually he decided to come over. I really did a good job because if I had gotten pushy and bossy or whinny he would have backed out but I showed that I AM capable of giving space and CAN deal with his moods and he came over!
So yesterday was just a really good day. He was a little grumpy when he first got there but I did not pester him like last time I just kept on business as usual. We had a long R talk that went really well. I was starting to feel like he was backing out of our plan to move in together because he had not been talking to me very much since I had taken him home Wednesday. But it is still going on and we are going to be married, not roomates. A lot lot of future talk all day long which is always a good sign. And comforting. I feel a little more stable now.
We went shopping and he got some "man toys," an XBOX 360 and rockband. . .oy vey! Silly hubby. He was all excited though. Then we went and looked at phones since we are going to be upgrading soon. I'm getting an iPhone! Super jazzed about that. Our plan does not switch until May but we are going to upgrade my phone in the next couple of weeks and get him one in January. We made a couple of changes to our existing plan which may not seem like a big thing but it was because the day was filled with "couple" decisions and we haven't made any of those in awhile. It feels like we are a team again and not just two people who ML and talk everyday. We are married!
He bought me dinner and we went back home and he played his new games. I was on my computer and he kept calling me out to the living room and at first it kinda annoyed me but then I remembered that this is a huge respect and friendship thing to a man. The "over the shoulder companionship" so I went out and watched and then he played a different game and we could talk because it was not so focused. So that was fun after all.
We watched a little tv, ML, and had another mini-R talk about the ILY's and nick names. I have said ILY once or twice now and he has not said it back and I was getting annoyed. I know it is not really his thing, it never was, but if you say it once why not say it again? We talked about it a bit and I did get one before he left. As for the nicknames, I have been calling him by his almost this whole time but when I asked him when he was gonna call me "sweetie" again he said we aren't moved in yet. Whatever that means. I didn't want to argue about it so I just let it go and enjoyed the snuggle.
He left a little while later because it was pretty late and he was tired and had an hour to drive. So we said goodbye (when I got the ILY) and he texted me when he got home to let me know he is safe.
It was a good day. I am feeling a lot better about the whole situation and am just impatient again to get the right jobs and move.
He still hasn't found his ring yet. He asked why I wasn't wearing mine and I told him I have to take it to get resized. It's a little tight, wearable but tight. I'm taking it on Tuesday and then probably won't get it back until the weekend or something. Oh well. I've waited this long!
I will post after my interview on Tuesday to let y'all know how it goes!
Things are going really well. I am so grateful and happy to be able to have this chance to make things work. I am looking forward to finding an apartment and moving in and spending time together after work. I hate coming home to my parents house after work. It makes me insane. I think we are all starting to grate on each others nerves and I am trying to just stay out but it's hard to do now that I am not working as much and my hubby still lives an hour away. I can't just pop over to his place and say "hi" and hang out for an hour or something. I'm really looking forward to that and having my own space again. Ugh! I am trying to be patient but it is really hard sometimes.
Well I gotta get some sleep so I can kick butt at my interview tomorrow!!!
Well the interview went well. It was short but I think I got the main points across. I ran around for a few hours afterwards to get things done. Turned my ring into the jeweler to get resized and bonded together (it is a set) and cleaned. I forgot how beautiful my ring is since I haven't worn it for so long. Ugh. I wore it for my interview and couldn't stop looking at it. Lol. It's almost like when I first got it 4 3 years ago. It's been that long. . .wow. I don't remember the date we got engaged. I think it was the 13th of this month. So it's been three years since I have had that ring. Nice to wear it again.
We have been talking a bit here and there, mostly business type conversations. Nothing super personal. I am probably going to be working tomorrow and then hanging out with friends on Thursday. Friday is halloween and I have no idea what he is planning. So who knows when I will see him again. Saturday I guess. Hmm. Oh well. I know that we will be living together soon enough so I can survive a week without seeing him.
Glad to hear that the interview went well. Even happier to hear about your ring :).
If you know you'll be living together soon, then of course you can go a week without seeing your H. I'd bet you could go months without seeing your H now that you have that kind of certainty again. Everything in your life sounds really positive. You sound very upbeat and positive as well. It's great to hear this!
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Me:34 H:36 M:5 years T: 8 years Bomb: 07/17/08 I want to be separated for 6 months--I don't know what I want the outcome to be S 07/28/08-11/08/08 Living together ~7 months D Possibly busted?!?!!!
Well I guess I'm not gonna have to wait a week. He has to come out to my area on Thursday to do some paperwork and he needs to get his coat that he left here and a book that I ordered for him that came today. So I asked if he was going to swing by and pick stuff up or if he wanted to make plans. He said we should hang out. So that is nice that he wanted to get together instead of just picking up his stuff and going home.
Yes one week vs eternety....pretty fair to me!! LOL. I'm glad that you are getting your rings re-sized too, that is going to feel so good wearing them again.
Glad to hear you'll be hanging out with your H tomorrow.
Keep up the PMA, you are SO close to your goal!!!
ITH
Me:34 H:36 M:5 years T: 8 years Bomb: 07/17/08 I want to be separated for 6 months--I don't know what I want the outcome to be S 07/28/08-11/08/08 Living together ~7 months D Possibly busted?!?!!!
I was having too much fun to update. Sorry ladies. Hehe.
He came over in the morning and was here till very late last night (technically this morning. . .)
Most of the day was very good. ML, ILY, future talk, good R talk, etc.
There were a few bumps in the road. At lunch we kinda went back and forth a little about what city to live in. My hubby is still pushing for me to move to the city he lives in now which is about an hour away from where I am now. I do not want to move there. I did when we first got married and it was a disaster because I was homesick, didn't have a job, didn't know my way around, etc. I do not even like the city itself, it's just not a nice place to live. I think he is being really selfish about this because there really is no good reason to move there other than his friends are there. Who cares! I just feel like if he can't give up living in the same city as his friends then maybe this isn't going to work. My job is here, our church is here, there are more job opportunities here. It makes no sense to move. He was arguing that cost of living is cheaper there which is true but I don't see that as a valid reason to move. In the end I told him that if he found a job there that he loved and could not do anywhere else then I would move but other than that I am staying here.
I don't know. It wasn't a fight but it was tense. I think we handled it well seeing as how we kept it under control tone wise and did not let it spin out of control, stayed on topic, etc. But just a rought conversation. I still don't feel good about it because I do not want him putting his effort into finding a job there just so I have to hold up my side of the deal. Ugh. An hour is not that far away but at the same time it is. I just don't move well and I get tired of moving from city to city. Especially thinking future wise and knowing that if he got sent to war I'd be stuck an hour away with no support net of family and friends who could come over at a moments notice when I was feeling sad and depressed about him being gone. That was the whole reason we moved last time so that I could be comfortable while he was gone for boot camp and AIT training last year.
Sorry that is probably waaay more info than you guys needed to know. I guess I need some advice. I want this marriage to work and I am sooo happy that we are piecing and will be moving in soon but I'm not sure I am willing to move for him right now. Is that terrible? I'm feeling pretty confused about it right now.
Towards the end of the night my BFF came over and we all carved pumpkins and mine was not turning out as planned and I got cranky and he was kinda irratated that I was complaining so much and I wanted to stop but between being up all day, PMS, and a stupid pumpkin pattern, I was about to lose it. Lol. Today it doesn't seem so bad but last night I was a mess. Luckily he just helped me fix my pumkpin and it turned out cute and then we watched a movie and he just cuddled me. It was really a 180 for him because normally when I get irritable and cranky he gets mad and lashes out but this time he did it different and I think he might see that it is the better way of dealing with me when I am like that. Lashing out just causes a nasty argument. Maybe he is learning too!
He did say during our R talk yesterday that he does need to change and be nicer and more considerate towards me so that we do not go back to the way we were. I'm happy that he said that.
I know we will be okay and that things will be even better than they were before, probably ever before, and all the bugs will get worked out over the next few months as we find a place and settle down. I guess I am just seeing that there is still a ways to go.
but he did come over even though he was kinda being wishy washy because he was in one of his "moods" and he did not want us to fight like the last time he was in a "mood." I just said it was up to him and did not push it at all. Let him be a rubber band!!! It was hard though because I really wanted to see him (and get out of my house for awhile!) and eventually he decided to come over. I really did a good job because if I had gotten pushy and bossy or whinny he would have backed out but I showed that I AM capable of giving space and CAN deal with his moods and he came over! 
Super jazzed about that. Our plan does not switch until May but we are going to upgrade my phone in the next couple of weeks and get him one in January. We made a couple of changes to our existing plan which may not seem like a big thing but it was because the day was filled with "couple" decisions and we haven't made any of those in awhile. It feels like we are a team again and not just two people who ML and talk everyday. We are married!
I'm happy that the interview went well Daisy!!