Getting my house in order

[missmyfriend]

frank, I seriously doubt that she doesn't love you anymore. Love doesn't just die. This is part of an epidemic that has clutched everyone called selfishness. People are all worrying about how they can achieve happiness. Happiness isn't found in the arms of another lover but in embracing their family and working through the challenges in life.

Even if your wife won't admit it, I am sure she loves you but doesn't know how to deal with everything. Every where you turn whether it be TV, so called self help books or even so called friends, will tell you that you aren't happy and if you aren't you need to change something in order to find it. Happy is not a place or person, it is realizing and appreciating the people you already have in your life. People keep focusing on the negative and it gets to be their end all and the only way to get rid of it is to escape.

The head over heels feeling that people seek is infatuation, not love. My W wanted that feeling again. She has love. She has admitted, around a year after she left, that she still loves me. Apparently she isn't infatuated with me.

I don't know why. I think I would be, lol ;-)

Seriously, your wife is dealing with issues that probably has little do with you and is about her trying to find her self which so much out there including Oprah telling people they are not anyone if they aren't independent and self fulfilled. BS!!!

What I read above shows me your wife is hurting inside as much as you are. The difference is she is hurting everyone, including herself.

Frank, you are an incredible person. She probably already knows that. You need to know that too.