Yes!!!! You go gurl!!! Good for you! Now that's confidenceand strength. I like it! They know we want them back so being unavailable just a bit is a good thing, it shows them confidence and gives em a lil chase. Niceeeee!
As far as D16 goes, he's still in the fog, so I found the best thing to protect myself is to have NO EXPECTATION, I know that sounds lame, but even if I do have expectations, he's not going to meet them anyways because he's in the fog. So because of this i step up further and be the best mom I can be and cover as much as possible. Yes he should do whats needed for D16 but the sad fact is they only care about themselves right now and no amount of trying to reason with them is going to help.
Whats the point in driving myself crazy expecting him to act rationally, responsibly, and with care for the family. He's not going to, at least yet. The 1st 6 months are hardest, so why add to it?
I'm glad your thinking about GAL'ing. Yes as soon as you get settled in make this investment in yourself. Ya know whats 1 hour 1 time a week? That's how I started salsa. Think about it 1 hour 1 time a week. Don't think you all have to pick something super long many times a week. It's just the point that you start. Now I look for more classes or longer workshops, because I enjoy treating and investing in myself this way.
Hope Im checking on those Irish dance classes, I'll come watch ya some day!!! I'll be your fan club! LOL
Me-38 H-38 Married 18years Daughter-17 & Son-9 Discovery of EA/PA 4/23/08 Left home 5/08/08 Moved in with OW 08/01/08
The only rock I know that stays steady, the only institution I know that works is the family. -- Lee Iacocca
