This is also something that stunned me a couple of weeks ago when H said, "what does it matter who leaves first?" I was at a loss for words because this is such an obvious thing to me. There is SO MUCH responsibility in making that decision that I didn't understand how he could be so flippant about it. I'm in this through thick and thin because I see the impact this would have on all the people I love. I just don't understand how you could not see the damage this will do.
I absolutely agree. Once H was in the process of filing, which he knew I was against, he tried to just lightly drop the suggestion, "oh, why don't we just file jointly?" I said "absolutely not. If you want to destroy our family, then you do it, I may have to go along with it but I certainly won't initiate it. It will be on your head, not mine."
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012
