I guess it's over

[NikB]

P.S. I realized my last post could be easily misinterpreted. Probably not by you, Trixi, but I wanted to clarify in case anyone else is reading it.

I'm not saying at all that you can't have a good or even great R with your H. I do believe you can. I just believe very strongly that you should require him to treat you the way YOU want to be treated in an R. And given his track record, I would think he'd need to pursue you (and mean it!) for a lonnng time before you could trust him again.