My H fluctuated between he was absolutely sure he could never live with me again...to who knows what will happen in 1, 2, 5, 10 years!...each time it got longer which really diminished my hope that we would recover...but as you can see we have and this is just another reason you really can't go by anything they say...and while they are in the middle of the crisis you can't even really go by what they do...my H gave every indication that he was done...never complimented me...never called me...didn't miss me...didn't ask how I was doing or show other signs of concern...so see...there really is no indicater except the one I came up with..."As long as neither of us are remarried there is always a chance"...and that is where I finally left things...
It is a long road...you are JUST beginning...you really need to just focus on you and the kids and not really even look for signs of hope with H...if this is MLC it will be a long time before you really will even want to look his way...his thinking will probably get screwier before it straightens out...
