Happy Days

[missmyfriend]

Cinders, is her back bad because she hurt it or is it her conscience affecting her physically or is it Him or something else entirely? I don't expect you to answer that even if you could.

My point is that the timing is unique. He had the kids and an event to take them and the OW to. Instead, she is in discomfort allowing your H to spend time with the kids, without you or the OW.

Is God making her suffer? Possibly. There is a lot of scripture in Psalms, Proverbs and elsewhere that do talk about calamity to those that would hurt those that belong to Him. Do I consider God cruel if He is making her uncomfortable? No. He may be thinking about her, trying to get her attention.

Is it just a bad back? Or her conscience? Sure, why not.

I will say that there is bound to be a competition for your Hs attention between the OW and your children. I am sure she didn't like the fact that H was gone all day Saturday with the children as well as the business family outing.

If she was avoiding the children and used a back problem to "escape" from the responsibility, it likely won't sit well with your H.

Cinders, I can't say whether your H will ever wake up but there is nothing I can tell that says he won't either. From what you have shared with us, you are doing the right things (your faith) and that's all that matters.

Any guy I have ever known that has had a young GF to show off eventually tires of that and wants someone that has substance, inner (not just outer) beauty , intelligence, friendship, history, etc. When that maturity level happens, a man realizes that he had the real prize to show off all along and was only embarrassing himself.

I wanted to say one more thing.

Your H is worth it.

With all of the stupid, idiotic, selfish things he has done, he is the guy that Cinders fell in love with, started a family with and wants to grow old with. Ignore the stupid comments (haven't we all said stupid things), the moronic actions he has carried out and know that people, by nature, will choose to do wrong when they don't have a moral compass.

In fact, those with a moral compass still choose badly on many occasions. I could write a book on wrong things that I have done (except I don't want anyone to know) since I have decided to listen to Him.

Live your life according to Him, not the rest of the world. You have a lot of good friends here that care and have excellent advice.

Love ya lots, little sis.