Something recently happened that shed some light on my Ds challenges with her grades.
My D is usually an A student.
This past Sunday, she didn't want to go to church, which is unusual for her. I ended up not going but spending several hours with her talking with her about faith, her life and those around her. She decided to share the past 3 1/2 years out of her diary with me. She left out certain things that were more private or didn't pertain but she was surprised herself when she read about being disappointed a couple of years ago when she missed out on all As because she ended up with a B. She stopped reading and looked up at me and said, "I was a good student".
I couldn't believe that she had forgotten. Her grades now don't even resemble what she used to get.
Yesterday, after reviewing her grades online (the school has a great program to access her current grades broken down by assignment, test, etc) I spoke with her because I was gravely concerned about her future. I admit that I shared another award her brother had received (he has straight As) but stated it as that I am not sharing this to make you competitive with your brother. I said that I am sharing this because, although he is smart and has the capacity (obviously) to do well, I always expected to see you receive award after award because of your intelligence and discipline.
She paused and then told me that what has been on her mind since she saw her diary entry about her former grades was the question of why? She said that she remembered an award that was given out for her to attend a conference on women's achievement that she had been selected from school (only her and one other girl had received this award), her mom had left the day before she was to attend. My D, "losing" her mother the day before, was in no mood to go.
My D feels that this had an impact on her and her discipline for school.
The good thing about this awareness is that my D appears to be more determined not to let this continue. Only time will tell.
Me:56, W:51 D:26,S:24,S:22 Married:18 Bomb 9/27/06 Separated 11/27/06 Divorced 10/6/08 Leaving it up to God
