I have thought about this considerably and reading your posts have cemented the overall concern I have for my daughter -- the pressure of having to choose between living with her mother or me could be terrible.
It also is a huge leap for my daughter to go from not wanting to stay at my Ws place for overnights (it is my Ds way of making a statement to her mother) to living with her mother. I think it would be possible to approach the subject of spending more time with her mother without making it appear as such as major step.
ACJ Thank you for your observation about my W and possible second thoughts she may be having.
With regards to how disagreements or matters of opinion can be handled, I will admit that I have, at times, taken the less than positive approach and reacted negatively. Overall, even if I haven't agreed completely with someone, I usually can glean something that I can use from what is shared as long as I don't let my pride get in the way.
Me:56, W:51 D:26,S:24,S:22 Married:18 Bomb 9/27/06 Separated 11/27/06 Divorced 10/6/08 Leaving it up to God
