Signs to say WAW woke up?

[dday101798]

Well, yet another sane and meaningful conversation for the most part.

VS, yes I know she is going through a bad time. Her ride has obviously begun. She says she is having a hard time keeping her head straight and is confused but wants to work towards being "friends".

Although that is entirely wonderful and a definate start, it does cause a conflict of interest as she is still with OM I don't know how to keep myself together just yet being friends to my W who is with someone else. I feel she kind of put me to a test just now when she said she was having a hard time with things yesterday also because OM's mother is in the hospital. I kept my cool and listened. I also listened to her talk of her problems and merely expressed my concern for her and she knows how to get a hold of me as I can relate to what she's going through and care.

So Amy, back to you, in your opinion, should I not put my hand out for her and let her deal with it on her own, or would it be helpful if I did? This goes back to my 180, I haven't been very sensitive to her needs for a while and I'm not sure if I do it may show her yet another change in me, or confuse her more?