He still blames me for everything. So now he thinks when the boys are old enough they will hate me and realize why he left me.
I hope that your XH will someday be able to look at himself and the mess he created. I don't want to discourage you but my XH and I have been divorced for over 13 years and he and his OW (now wife) still blame me for EVERYTHING. Our S17 and D15 understand the dynamics of the situation more and more without me even having to say much. My children have been stuck in the middle for all of these years and it has been so unfair to them. I did my best to keep them out of the middle but I admit I haven't been perfect because I let them drive me crazy. It has taken me a long time to learn that the more I react to what my XH and his wife do and say, the more fuel it gives them. I have been trying not to let them get to me and I even recently decided that I will not read my XH's emails unless they are about something I need to know (I am having someone else screen them) and I completely blocked his wife's email. I know your boys are still very young and you still need to have a lot of contact with your XH BUT do yourself and your kids a favor and do everything you possibly can to stay out of your H's drama. And hopefully your XH will let himself see the truth one day but it is best that you prepare yourself that he won't.
I'm happy for you that the sale of your house fell through. I am sure your XH won't be very happy about it...do your best not to react to his spew.
