I just need to vent

[Livin4ME]

Hi Kerry,
Altho he is military, we do not have any JAG offices here. I spoke to one while I was visiting my family in another state. So everything we will be doing will be thru the civilian courts. I have made contact with a JAG office tho, so I can continue to contact them if need be. And he is not able to because I made contact first.
I'm not familiar with the Guardian thing, but I will definitely look into it.
I completely agree with you 150% regarding the children. They do not need to be around her. He agrees with me regarding the overnights. But he won't tell her this because it means he agrees with his W not his GF. Yes, she has a tight grip on his cajones!!! He has had them around her on many occasions, thinking he is hiding it from me. But I'm not completely stupid! When we finally do go to court, I will let the judge know that on several occasions, he lied to me about where my children were (i.e. sleeping) and had refused to give me an address where they were at. I feel that because of his lack of judgement, he does not have the best interests for the children at hand. His past has proven that on many instances (i.e. leaving his W numerous times over the course of a year to go be with OW, only to leave her to come back to W. Dismissing the D, and continuing an affair, etc.)
I have told him, she is not their stepmother, she has NO say in the decisions of OUR children. They have already dealt with enough. When this all started, my D was only a few months old, she didn't know any different. But my S was 2.5, he knew and had a very difficult time. Even tho we thought we were protecting him he still knew what was going on. He knew that Dada lived at his house with HER. And that we lived at our house. For the longest time after H came back this time, S would ask him if he was going back to his home because this was our home. The crying for him at night. The temper tantrums for him. The meltdowns when H dropped them off. Also, I would ask if he had fun with Dada when he got home after his weekends with him, and he would look at me with this look of, I don't know what to say. Like he couldn't tell me that she was there. My 3 year old was doing that!! Now tho, my D has gotten closer to him. She's becoming a little daddy's girl. She's still young, so it won't be the same, but it will still be difficult for her.
No offense taken Kerry, I appreciate your post. Thank you for the link to the website, I will definitely look at it and look into my state too.