Still Supportive but very distant

[JWS]

Hello All,

Sorry I have been a ghost around here, It has been a very busy and strange few weeks. to make a very long story short I had another very near death experience in a plane (this time at night with bad seas at the back of the boat) this has caused me to totally change my out look on life. I just sort of work up to realize that I am happy, and love my life and I am not going to live this way any longer. my wife was very up set about the incident then it was back to her selfish ways and not talking about anything real. well no more I know this is not DBing but for me that is over. I sent her an ultimatum. there is now a line in the sand fix this marriage now or Divorce, either one will be happening soon. I actually fear her choosing to fix it more, I am not sure how I could ever trust her or feel that she is not just dragging things out to take advantage of it.

Basically i reached then end of that rope, and I just can't hang on any longer. I really feel that if we stayed in limbo I would just resent her and we would also lose our friendship, but this way after time there is a chance to remain friends. I know I gave it a good shot but I also compromised who I am to hold out for her, and put up with behavior that is totally unacceptable.

I hope everyone is well and I will keep checking in on you but with everything going on I have hardly even sat down in front of my computer. I was thinking about what successful DBing has done for me.

Michele says that her methods can not promise to save your marriage but they can save you and they have for me. by following her methods here is what I have found.

great success at work by focusing on myself
a deep stronger relationship with God
rediscovered great friendships that were lost
a new a strong relationship with my brother
a new RL friend in Lost
managed to keep a friendship with my W despite all this crap
most importantly I kept my head above water and never gave up although at times it felt I was barley going to make it.

I bought the book for one reason only to keep my wife and instead I got all those things and have meet all of you so money well spent I think, Thanks Michele although it was not the thanks I had hoped for it is equally as special.

Mike

JWS was the initials of my pets (Jester, Willow, and Scout) but I don't need that anymore I have gained so much and don't care who knows that