Can you remind just how you were able to pull off getting full custody? Our mediator told me not to even try to go there, that rarely does one parent get anymore and it wasn worth the trial hassel.
I even had proof of abuse even thoguh it had been years since the incidents.
He still blames me for everything. So now he thinks when the boys are old enough they will hate me and realize why he left me.
I hope that your XH will someday be able to look at himself and the mess he created. I don't want to discourage you but my XH and I have been divorced for over 13 years and he and his OW (now wife) still blame me for EVERYTHING. Our S17 and D15 understand the dynamics of the situation more and more without me even having to say much. My children have been stuck in the middle for all of these years and it has been so unfair to them. I did my best to keep them out of the middle but I admit I haven't been perfect because I let them drive me crazy. It has taken me a long time to learn that the more I react to what my XH and his wife do and say, the more fuel it gives them. I have been trying not to let them get to me and I even recently decided that I will not read my XH's emails unless they are about something I need to know (I am having someone else screen them) and I completely blocked his wife's email. I know your boys are still very young and you still need to have a lot of contact with your XH BUT do yourself and your kids a favor and do everything you possibly can to stay out of your H's drama. And hopefully your XH will let himself see the truth one day but it is best that you prepare yourself that he won't.
I'm happy for you that the sale of your house fell through. I am sure your XH won't be very happy about it...do your best not to react to his spew.
Andabelle, he will probably blame me somehow on why the deal fell through. Don't you know it's my fault that the sun sets every night?
Chicki, I don't know what state you live in but I live in NY and it is not a joint custody state (only if both parents agree to it). I am sorry you have having so much trouble.
Upside, I think my ex will be just like yours. I don't think he will ever wake up. I try my best to keep the kids out of the middle but sometimes you can only protect them from so much. It doesn't help that the courts don't seem to have the best interest of the children in mind either. Thanks for stopping by.
I can't believe I packed up so much only to have to go and unpack a bunch of stuff! Figures, right?
Be prepared for him to ask you to split the legal fees he just incurred even though the house fell through. Thank him for the Christmas present you didn't ask for and suggest he try to take it back to the store.
Guess he has some more mortgage payments to make too.
Jingle Bells ... JA smells ... Jingle all the way !!!
YIPEEEE...I read about the house and screamed out loud!!! It is a break you have been waiting for MrsH.... good thoughts heading your way!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Mrs. H, I'm very happy to see that you will be in your house this Christmas. God was looking out for you.
As for the JA, just leave him out there. There's no point getting into it w/him any more than you have to. He's still blaming you and the world for everything. Poor sap....Santa should bring him a mirror to look at himself and what he's done to you and the children.
Please take care of yourself. Sounds like you've got a touch the flu that's going around.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
W2S, unfortunately, I am now paying all the bills so I can't stay here too long or else I will be in some serious debt. I am just happy I can buy a little more time and can spend one more Christmas here.
Chicki, I feel like no matter where you live the courts don't seem to hold the cheaters responsible. It's ridiculous and the court system has no morals.
Thanks Mom! I did a little dance around my kitchen I was so excited at the time. It was an instant stress reliever.
Snodderly, Maybe I should get him a mirror for Christmas! You think he would be insulted? Haha!
I do feel much better, thank you!
I went to my lawyers the other day just to correct some stuff in the papers. He showed me the list of stuff that JA wanted and asked if I had any objections to any of it. I didn't. My L and his daughter who started working for him couldn't believe he was asking for his "toy backhoe". My lawyer looked at me and started laughing and said "this guy is unreal. He is 33 years old and wants his toy backhoe back?" I was mortified for him. It was a backhoe that he had when he was growing up and gave to the boys and he wanted to make sure he got it back. It is something he could of just asked me for and I would of given it to him but he would rather make himself look like an idiot and go through his lawyer to get it back.
That's almost as bad as Snodderly's ex wanting his plastic egg back! Snodderly, they really are twins!
Yes, Mrs. H, they are twins! The toy is a connection to his childhood, just as the plastic egg was to mine. You have to remember, they've regressed and yes, your lawyer had every right to laugh....mine did too, so did the police. It's very difficult to have to tell people what he wants.
Did he ask for his baby photos or photos that were taken of him prior to the marriage? That was another thing that my xh wanted.
Look the list over again, for you may just happen across a few more strange items that a grown man would want at this stage in life.
I'm glad you are feeling better. Take care of yourself and btw, Happy Halloween!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
