Yes, being patient .... is definately learned. AS well as pushing through the lonliness and aching in your heart. I try to see the good within the bad as well.
I have a DBcoaching session tomorrow. I wonder what she will say. Last week, I sent my H an email, saying that he won & I was ready to D. I wasn't mean. I wonder if I put the last nail in the coffin??
Me39, XH45 Kids 3 dogs, 2 cats Divorced 6/4/09 Tricky thing is not how you live, but how you live with yourself. (POTC)
Won't have time to check-in tommorrow, so here's some well-wishes for your court date on Wednesday. Just be cool... don't look broken, no matter what happens.
I'll be praying for you.
My thread, Carpe Diem #4 Orig Thread: Carpe Diem #1
You are freaking out because you've never had to go to your own initial hearing. It's a very unfamiliar experience for you. Lots of unknowns. Lately, I've been trying to be brave in new situations. It turns out, they aren't as scary as I imagine they "could be". I'm at the beginning of what sounds like a very messy divorce. Hang in there. Peace. Goldey
Me:44, WAW hx bi-polar H:48, hx of abuse S:22, S:19, D:16 Filed Oct 08, dismissed Filed again Jan 10, dismissed Now Piecing alter persona: SuperBoots
Hi Goldy, Maybe that's what it is. I guess I keep viewing it as though it's the "end" becasue I feel like she's gone this far and I don't know if she'd be willing to turn back....
I really.hope you're situation isn't as bad as you think....
Hi seaglass71, No, my DBcoach didn't tell me to send the letter & I didn't ask for advise here either (which I have in the past). It was a reaction - instead of action. My DBcoach didn't think it was that bad. I didn't blame him - I blamed us & said what I needed.
You are freaking out, because it is uncharted waters. But it isn't the end & don't view it as that. View it as a wake up call & a chance to show your W you have changed.
Are you going to try & talk to her? What are you going to say? I'll check back later.
Me39, XH45 Kids 3 dogs, 2 cats Divorced 6/4/09 Tricky thing is not how you live, but how you live with yourself. (POTC)
I think it's bothering me so much because - knowing my wife - she is the type of person that would go through with this instead of stepping back because she already started the ball rolling. I am hoping to talk to her but I don't really know if I will have the opportunity. I don't even know what I should say. It's been so long since I've seen or talked to her that it's really uncomfortable just thinking about it. I don't even feel like I know her anymore...I guess I want her to know that I love and miss her and that I am sorry. I'm not sure if I should say those things or not.....
