Brief overview. W has had multiple A's since 2006. Rehab for alcoholism. History of lying. Said she wanted a D in Sept. Started to separate then came back. She confused; but has been actively pursuing my replacement. Yesterday this happened.
First thing when I got home; I noticed that the kitchen was clean and laundry was being done. So I made a comment that the place smelled clean. She was being short and I could tell that something was up.
So the W probed me today to see if I was keeping a journal. I can only guess that she was coached by someone; maybe her mother. So I fessed up and told her that I was keeping a journal. She said that she didn't understand why; because she wasn't going to ask me for child support. I simply stated that I would hope not since you only asked for them every other weekend. So she then said that my A will subpoena your journal and she's not happy about you keeping one. I said it will be available if need be. At that point I realized that she's changing her desires for custody. I asked her what she thought would be a good arrangement. She said that she would have them three days and I would have them three days and we would alternate the other days. I asked her where are you going to live? She said with my grandparents. I didn't say anything further about that.
She asked my why I was keeping the journal; she figures it's to prove that she's an unfit mother. I told her that when she came to me and told me that she had seen an attorney and was wanting a D; that I consulted with an attorney and was advised to keep the journal. I told her that there's not only negative stuff in there; but positive stuff as well. I'm writing down everything that happens; everything.
So I left her at that point. Within 10 min. she's acting normal and brings up something the dogs killed earlier this afternoon. Then she talks a little about her wound and how they were accommodating her at work. That she's running the risk of getting fired. Later she told me that she wasn't mad anymore.
A few minutes later, I told her that I really didn't want to talk about us right now but I wanted her to know that I haven't given up on this marriage. She said that she didn't know what she wanted to do. I told her that's fine; I'm leaving it at that. Then she left. I can see from the phone that she contacted two L's this afternoon. I asked her if she was planning on filing, she said that she didn't know.
So now I think she has a glimpse of what may be coming down the pike; that this is serious business. I think that is where all the cleaning stemmed from; all of a sudden it's real and now I've got to step up and do the right thing.
So I think the next phase begins tonight. I somewhat suspect that she's really seeing a L tonight and not going to work. I say that because of the lengthy story she told about what she was doing tonight at work. But I could be wrong, she'll have plenty of time to see one during the day tomorrow.
She didn't come home at all last night. So I don't know if she's really worried about the journal or not.
