I don't understand (and I gather that you don't either) your H's seeming need to stay at the other place, especially when things are going so well at home.
My C has an opinion about that. She thinks that it is possible that after 7 years into the relationship, my H is at a point where he feels he must decide whether to commit to the M or get out and that he can't let anymore time pass without making a decision one way or another. At this point, I would have to say (and I'm quite sure H would agree) he thinks he wants to leave the M.
So everytime things seem to be going smoothly with us, it causes him concern that he will not be able to break free.
Whether he has a shred of doubt about departing; or an undercurrent of desire to stay; or whether he is just fooling himself in expecting too much; or any number of other possiblities, just creates more unanswered questions for me in regard to my H's outlook for our M.
I do think the focus has narrowed somewhat from before and in a way is more manageable.
When you feel up to it, please let us know how things are with you.
