Don't miss the forrest for the trees now!! As Sage pointed out this was a MAJOR 180 for both of you!!!
I think your H's ability to TELL you how he was feeling indicates a few good things: 1) he's getting in touch with his feelings 2) he can articulate them gently 3) he felt SAFE in taking the risk to share them with YOU!!!
And you could have ruined it easily by being upset, clingy, whatever....but you DIDN'T...I think you gave BOTH of you an amazing gift.
You validated his feelings, let HIM make a decision he wanted to, and you ARE okay!! That's the Jeannine that he said he "likes"...no "loves"...!!!
Now, about his need to get away to his cave....perhaps some wisdom from Shay5 (where is she???), or Talista...
