We went to coaching the other day. I had been feeling sorry for myself for doing everything I have been doing with no much in return from W. I ended up confronting her during coaching and gace her a challenge. The challenge is to do one loving thing for me each day. Going back to what work or what has been working and do it. Said I am not asking for much just one thoughtful thing a day. A phone call to just say hi, or a txt saying same, making a pie, rubbing my shoulders, going for a walk with me etc. Something small, baby steps. We have learned in class that one way to get love back is to serve the other person in some way each day. The thought is that by serving you begin to love. Thats what we all did in the begining of our R's we serve, they serve us and we were happy. I have found that by doing all the things I am doing that I am feeling more love for my W that ever before. At times I wonder if it is enough to gain her love back. Then there are times that I get a bit upset that she is not putting more effort into this. I know she will have to make that choice for her self. Guess that is the hard part, her opening up to loving me again. She says I would make the perfect husband now and that she like how my personality has changed to be much more calm and accepting. Any body have a magic pill?:) Byron
