Wow Rob, so yuo have had a few dates already!? You kept that quiet, or maybe I just missed it. I have no doubt you will not be short of female company...
Thanks for sticking with me on my thread, you always leave such caring words, usually for when I wake up in the morning! Which is always a pleasure, Ali xxx
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
Wow Rob, so yuo have had a few dates already!? You kept that quiet, or maybe I just missed it. I have no doubt you will not be short of female company...
My "dates" were casual where I've met two ladies out and talked. I didn't feel any real chemistry between either of them, but it was nice to be out and be social again. I'm pretty sure they like me a bit more than I like them.
Anyway, I'll keep poking around and see what is out there and I'll still not be in a hurry to find anyone permanently for me.
I was in Seattle this weekend visiting family, so I didn't report too much. A quick trip. In late Friday and out mid-day Sunday.
Nothing much on my front. XW is "nice" today, so I'm waiting for the other shoe to drop. That will come when the pensions are evaluated and split up. I'm scraping together my $500 to pay for my 1/2, so once I've got that, I'll put it in motion.
We've agreed to have them assessed informally to see what they are worth, then look to negotiate what is fair for the person who has the lower pension. I'm praying the Catholic Church can do something good for my retirement by having a really poor pension compared to what the State of Arizona teachers retirement would work out to be. That will be one of my daily intentions, I guess.
So, the anger will come back then, but it is just a "business transaction" now, so her cries of my jeopardizing D's college fund or putting her in the poor house, won't stop me from getting her to pay up -- IF of course, I'm lucky enough to have this fall in my favor.
I mean, come on! Something in this entire D has to go my way sometime, right?
I'm sure I'll be very glad in time. Right now, it doesn't feel that way, but in time, it most likely will. She has too many issues and needs a lot of work to overcome everything. I'm not sure she's willing to do the work needed.
I'm a bit down today. I'm overwhelmed w/ the house not selling, the bills piling up, and being alone. It has been a tough day, so I'm going to bed early tonight and hoping that some quality sleep will help.
So I called D tonight and while I was on the phone w/ D, XW got on w/ me and proceeded to talk for about a half hour about how ticked off she was over how the school treated her at D's event Saturday and how tired she was of all the money she is continually being asked to contribute. She was bitter and ranting a bit, and roughly every other word from her in the story was profane.
What did I do? Just sat and listened. This was new for me and I know I allowed a breach of boundaries by just listening to her, but honestly, I was caught off guard. So, now I'm going to work on practicing the plan to not allow her to use me for her emotional outlet. I'm ready for her to lash out at me - that is the one I've rehearsed - but I've yet to develop this one. I will and I'll learn it soon.
I'm disappointed b/c I've allowed it to get me down a bit. I've endured all her crap and lies about who I am and then now she wants me to be there when she wants me. I'm saddened I allowed it to happen tonight, but I'll be better w/ this in time.
Not prepared to play the game tonight. Need to work on my defensive preparation for all live game situations. That is what practice is for, right?
