So many good things happened this weekend, eh? It's so nice that you got to have a break from the misery. Let's see: a good R talk, an apology, an ILY, lots of sex, showing interest in your whereabouts, reassurance about the OW, hey, that's a good MONTH for the rest of us! Seriously, if nothing else, it must have served to remind you how good life could be with him.
I know how frustrating it must be to have the big ups and downs. I know in my case, I usually had big ups and downs in response to small changes in my W's attitude and behavior. It must be so much harder for you, since you're dealing with big mood swings from your H.
I don't understand (and I gather that you don't either) your H's seeming need to stay at the other place, especially when things are going so well at home. That's very strange. If it were my W, I would be immediately suspicious that she just wanted to be with the OG, but that's not the case for your H. Is it simply a symptom of depression or some other mental battle that he's having with himself? And if so, does he realize it? It's so obvious that his problem is not you, it's him, and that jettisoning you from his life won't fix anything.
Congratulations on your response, letting him go. Regardless of his reasons for wanting to go, at least he appreciated the gesture. Sounds like you handled everything very well.
His saying, "I just wanted to let you know what I'm thinking instead of keeping it inside like I usually do" seems particularly interesting to me. That sounds like somebody who is really trying, in their own way, to change. Not only is he trying to be more expressive, it shows that he recognizes that being more expressive is a good thing (i.e., the need to change). It also shows effort, and that's maybe the most important thing of all.
Yes, the pendulum is likely to swing back again. At least you know this and that can help prepare you for it. Just remember that it's mostly, if not entirely, about him, and not about you. You're doing great.
