Working With New Seeds

[sage]

This time, midway into Sunday afternoon, my H walks up to me and says, "I have something to say and I don't want you to get upset.& "I'm feeling like I'd really like to stay the night at Parkside". "I'm not going to; I just wanted to let you know what I'm thinking instead of keeping it inside like I usually do".

He later went outside to do some more yard work and when he came back in, I told him that after we ate dinner, if he still wanted to spend the night at Parkside, it was alright with me.

He looked stunned and pleased all at once. He said, "Really? You sure it's alright? You're not just saying that because of what I ...; I assured him that it was fine, and that because he had been so sweet and kind, I wanted to give something in return. I told him that this (our relationship) is a two-way street.

jeannine -- This is SUCH a tremendous example of a 180 -- new behavior -- for BOTH of you! He tells you honestly when he's feeling hemmed in...and you not only "hold onto yourself" but you give him the space and freedom to act on those feelings.

You mention not knowing whether you can get this back on track towards a commitment later in your post..."men are from mars..." stuff strongly indicates that (some) men really need to know that they are free to commit. Know what I mean?

Sage