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[optimistwife]

Nothing huge to add today. Just a few more little comments over the past day that make me think things are mending. The other morning, as he was getting ready to leave for school (way to early- I really don't enjoy waking at 5, but for him anything), he kinda blurted out 'you're fun!'. Strange timing, as I'm semi-comatose in bed- but Hey! I'm FUN! again in my husbands mind.

He had also forgot to e-mail himself a file from my computer he needed, so texted shortly after he left and said if I'd send it to him he would 'love me forever'. I texted back that it was a deal!

H has also thrown his back out again this weekend, so is pretty short in general and in pain, so I have tried to do some nice things for him. I commented that it seems that I can't stop trying to take care of him. His response was that he still likes me caring for him or something like that.

It is a shift in our talk- slight positives. No outright 'I Love YOu's', lets fix it all right now, or anything huge, but I am starting to see how nothing about this process is huge. It is a billion tiny steps forward to a long path.

Even though things aren't fixed, I know I would never be where we are now without DB, Jody, and this board.

I keep on thinking to myself- Love it patient, love is kind. And that is how we need to live our lives, every day, every reaction.

So- thanks everyone. i do hope we can have a big party at the end of this together.