Jeannine, Thanks so much for your wonderful welcome to Piecing. I have read your latest sitch here and want to offer my hugs and support for what you are going through.
I haven't read everyone else's responses, and I might be going out on a limb here, but it seems to me that your H is verbally abusive to you. Have you read Gary Chapman's "Loving Solutions" book? It deals with how to respond to verbal abuse (among other things) in a way that maintains your self-respect.
I am hoping that you get some answers soon for your health condition, and that it is something that is easily treatable. Please focus on taking care of yourself. Your H's problems are his own to deal with and are not your responsibility.
