Marisol, I think the pain and struggle your H is experiencing right now is good! It helps to bring them out of the fog.
He wants you to feel sorry for him by mentioning the 2000$-DON'T feel sorry, this is of his doing. Let him figure his way out, don't fix it for him. This is a position of confidence. I mean your having to move out how bad does he feel about that? If we make it too easy for them then it will be too easy to do it again. He is reaping the seeds he has sown, and its ok. The bible says God chastises love he loves, just be sweet and let him figure it out. He really should find some temporary work until the housing market changes and the bible says you don't work you don't eat, of course if you are a full time mom like me I view that as work too. Men are supposed to be the providers for the fam.
Do you respond to every text, email or phone call? I think every once in a while don't answer. He needs to feel you are still living your life and not waiting on his every word. Or end the conversation sweetly but end it 1st-well I better go now I have some things to do blah blah blah.
I'm not sure what to think of the text convo, maybe he wants you to feel bad and give him money. Remember they are in the fog so only listen to very little of what they say.
Me-38 H-38 Married 18years Daughter-17 & Son-9 Discovery of EA/PA 4/23/08 Left home 5/08/08 Moved in with OW 08/01/08
The only rock I know that stays steady, the only institution I know that works is the family. -- Lee Iacocca
