Another good point "always ask as a question - giving room for him to back out "
Put like that it is something I can be aware of. There are some fantastic little tips which go beyond what the book says and I think i will go back and collate them and post them.
Sometimes it is just the way it is put.
Welllllll not all invites are accepted, but a lot are, as long as they involve kids and there is chance I am not there.
I wonder if you need to include H in on your sons activites as possibly it is to hard for S too. I would be concerned about protecting his right to a father and encouraging contact. Do you have a reason to want to keep S from his dad ?
Not wanting to sound mean but is it for selfish reasons ?
I would be fearful that S would blame me in years to come for not encouraging time together. If he is unable to communicate with his Dad then as a young adult he could come to see that as your doing. You would be devastated surely if that happened.
Besides i think that Sons need their father. Well so do daughters. Daughters need to be told by their dad how pretty they look and how clever they are. This builds there confidence and self esteem around men and as adults it will enable then to possibly make good mate choices later on .
I feel it is a shame that children do not as a right get 50/50 split of their time with parents. Too bad if it puts parents out. In a divorce I think the kids needs comes before anyones elses.
