I would say to her what have been trying to say to her for the last 6 weeks, only without the emotional baggage. Detach form you sitch. Talk to her as you would has a good friend. Absolutely not anger. Clam clear and distinct. I know if you can do this, I don't know that I could have 6 weeks after the bomb fell on my head. Now with some time I think I could. I think have been able to detach enough so I could get through a hearing without breaking down. I am not saying that I would not break down after it in private, but I think I could get through a hearing.
You have to tell her the things you need to say. I would not think this would be pushing her way. I would tell her that you have seen the arrow of your ways and that you are and will continue working on your problems.
I don't know if I am right or wrong on these issues, maybe someone here can give you some more advice or suggestions. I have gone with my gut and have come out OK.
