Aiming for a new me.....14?

[brandnewday]

If you keep doing more of the same you will keep geting the exact same results.
You refuse to move forwards based on fear.
You refuse to go dark.
You refuse to believe that he is stringing you along and every single week he makes plans with you and every single week he cancels and you still ask the same questions....why?

Dar, MLC or not your Husband is a jerk.
Your Husband has a girlfriend.
He plays head games with you because you feel as though you deserve this treatment because of the past.
He knows how to push your buttons and you let him.

I don't know about you, but I do know that a person can only take so much until they finally snap.
All of that anger you supress will eventually erupt into a huge big blowup.
And when that happens your Husband will say "see you never changed".

And then he will turn it all around and make it all your fault again.

And so.....the dance will begin....again.


It is time to change the steps.

Get on with your life as though he is never coming home.

Find out exactly how much he should be paying in child support and have him give you that amount every single month.

Stop feeling sorry for him. Depression is an illness which can be helped with AD's and therapy, it is not a friggin death sentence. Bad childhood or not does not give anyone the right to treat their Spouse like crap.

Set boundaries and stick to them.

Get yourself some self respect and stop allowing him to control your every single move.

You live to hear the sound of his voice. His moods dictate your moods. His actions dictate your moods.

Your Husband has become the deity in your life.

I am NOT telling you to get a Divorce, I am telling you to get your act together and to stop existing and start living your life.