Thanks Friendly Gal, it's a relief to hear you say that.
I guess we just hurt so much, that the thought of the ow hurting, even just a little is somewhat comforting. Anyhow, back to concentrating on myself and the kids now ! Off to watch a movie with them, curled up on the couch together !
Love Cinders xxx
"In the depths of my winter, I realized there is within me an invincible summer" Albert Camus
Hey Cinders, you are not a bad person for thinking that.
Hope you enjoyed your movie with the kids!!!
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
Cinders, is her back bad because she hurt it or is it her conscience affecting her physically or is it Him or something else entirely? I don't expect you to answer that even if you could.
My point is that the timing is unique. He had the kids and an event to take them and the OW to. Instead, she is in discomfort allowing your H to spend time with the kids, without you or the OW.
Is God making her suffer? Possibly. There is a lot of scripture in Psalms, Proverbs and elsewhere that do talk about calamity to those that would hurt those that belong to Him. Do I consider God cruel if He is making her uncomfortable? No. He may be thinking about her, trying to get her attention.
Is it just a bad back? Or her conscience? Sure, why not.
I will say that there is bound to be a competition for your Hs attention between the OW and your children. I am sure she didn't like the fact that H was gone all day Saturday with the children as well as the business family outing.
If she was avoiding the children and used a back problem to "escape" from the responsibility, it likely won't sit well with your H.
Cinders, I can't say whether your H will ever wake up but there is nothing I can tell that says he won't either. From what you have shared with us, you are doing the right things (your faith) and that's all that matters.
Any guy I have ever known that has had a young GF to show off eventually tires of that and wants someone that has substance, inner (not just outer) beauty , intelligence, friendship, history, etc. When that maturity level happens, a man realizes that he had the real prize to show off all along and was only embarrassing himself.
I wanted to say one more thing.
Your H is worth it.
With all of the stupid, idiotic, selfish things he has done, he is the guy that Cinders fell in love with, started a family with and wants to grow old with. Ignore the stupid comments (haven't we all said stupid things), the moronic actions he has carried out and know that people, by nature, will choose to do wrong when they don't have a moral compass.
In fact, those with a moral compass still choose badly on many occasions. I could write a book on wrong things that I have done (except I don't want anyone to know) since I have decided to listen to Him.
Live your life according to Him, not the rest of the world. You have a lot of good friends here that care and have excellent advice.
Love ya lots, little sis.
Me:56, W:51 D:26,S:24,S:22 Married:18 Bomb 9/27/06 Separated 11/27/06 Divorced 10/6/08 Leaving it up to God
It seems that God has been looking out for me and the kids all day !!! Coming here and finding YOUR post, just proves it !
I have been asking God if I should stand and wait for H...today on our way to visit my Inlaws the kids and I saw SO MANY rainbows !!!! ALl the songs on the radio were about coming home or missing a person...I FELT GOD tell me, that I should stand, that all will be allright one day !
Your post MMF, just had EVERYTHING in it, to give me the boost I needed !
Yes, I do love my H, is he lost? I don't know...will he come back? I don't know, but I trust God to do what is right there.
ow's back was really hurting her. I think she must have hated not being able to join H and the kids, for she loves playing family with MY family.
I do think God was working on H and ow this weekend. In fact I am convinced of it. Will I notice anything soon? Probably not, but to me it's enough to know that God is out there looking after us !
Take care xxx Much love and thanks xxx
Love Cinders xxx
"In the depths of my winter, I realized there is within me an invincible summer" Albert Camus
I dropped the kids off at the movies, where H came to pick them up and then I went to the movies with 3 of my best friends, we went to see Mama Mia !!! WOW !!!!! It was SOOOO much fun ! I laughed all the time and just LOVED the cheerfullness of the movie ! Fantastic !
Today I went to get some Halloween costumes, D7 will be a she-devil and S5 is a skeleton ! D9 will wear her witch costume and I too will go as a witch ! I told H that I got him an Adam's costume ! (YEP, some leaves in exactly the right place ! haha )
Kids are looking forward to tomorrow ! So am I, I have taken some recipe's of the internet to make the kids, and it should be fun ! Then we're off trick or treating !
I'm looking forward to it ! It's the first time I will go along and I'm a little nervous ! Usually H does this with the kids... I sent H a TM with what I got the kids as costumes and he seemed really excited for tomorrow. Still, expectations at zero, for he is nowhere baked !
Halloween isn't all that big over here, but I still hope we will have a great time !
Lots of love,
Love Cinders xxx
"In the depths of my winter, I realized there is within me an invincible summer" Albert Camus
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Cinders, you sound great! Halloween is HUGE over here and I LOVE IT! I can't wait for tomorrow either. Trick-or-treating alone with the kids will be fine. I too was nervous the first time, but it's fun. They'll probably see some of their friends and you can tag along with them and their moms too. Have fun making those recipes! Sounds awesome!
