Wow, Im thinking that you are becoming an expert at this whole DBing stuff. You are able to defuse issues with your H quickly. I think that KAW is right that you need to let the asking drop till things are more stable. I know that has started to work in my Sitch. With me dropping the needs and not asking for anything I have seen my W start to try and give me some of those things.
Wow, you ladies (and Lee) are making me blush with all this attention!!
Seriously ... I seem to learn from the school of hard knocks, but hopefully my experiences will allow some of you to avoid having to take some of the bumps I have.
It does give me a to know I have helped in some small way and has given a much needed boost to my PMA today! Thanks...
Thank you for that compliment - you are becoming an expert at this whole DBing stuff . It is very kind of you to say that, however, I have not been put to the BIG test yet. I still am facing a seperation and I'm not too sure how well I will hold up to that.
I'm so glad to hear that you are seeing some progress in your situation.
So I see that we have another vote for putting away the "expectations" for now.
I come from the University of Hard Knocks too!!! I majored in "Regrettable History" and minored in "Misguided Communications".
In reference to your previous post, you stated I know this is against what you are looking for with your current state of health, but I think even if you just act "as-if" you wish to be more self-reliant maybe enough to that he is willing to offer more support.
I agree with you there too. Actually, I've been trying to keep the topic of my health at a distance from my H as much as possible. Of course, to look at me is to be reminded of my condition.
Today I went to the health food store and got me one of those big ole jars of "don't mess with me" weight gain powders. Just had my first glass of it along with some ice cream. Blaaak!!!
Jeannine, nice proactive step! Hope it helps. You guys can talk - once in a while - which is a plus. H has heard what you have said, but may not have digested it. Let is sit for a while. Maybe it's like lasagna, and is better after being frozen for awhile. Give him time.
The ice cream doesn't sound too bad! The other stuff I'm not too sure about. But sure do hope it helps!
I sure would send you some weight if I could! I did lose 3 more lbs. and when David was here Sunday he noticed!
Hope you are having a good evening. Mine has sort of been broken up with the handyman coming to look at some projects I would like done in the house. He said would probably get me an estimate back around the end of the week!
Please keep your fingers crossed for me I can do my projects! That will help cheer me up some I hope! I am down this evening so thank you for the hug. No reason, just lonely I guess.
Take care and hugs to you. Will check on you tomorrow!
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
Yum, yum...weight gain powder! ...Kind of odd, but I'm having coffee with a former student of mine who battles anorexia...she's at a good weight now (she wouldn't agree), but the thought of you TRYING to gain weight would bowl her over. So I won't mention it!
Any further news on your medical tests??? Did they say when you might learn something? How are you feeling?
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And one for you too, Pam, in case you're checking in late
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Take care girls!
Shiny
P.S. Pam, back off on sending weight to Jeannine, I offered first! ...
with all this attention!! 
to know I have helped in some small way and has given a much needed boost to my PMA today! Thanks...
I can only agree with others that it is the key ingredient for any degree of success.
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