TsMomw/2girls, I like it, I like it! Very confident! You see a little of the unavailable detaching really works. I agree things may change in 5 months you are very new into the mess. But I like the changes you are making. Very 180 and believe it or not he sees it. You see how he used the kids as something to strike up a convo? Did you catch it?
The only thing I would have loved even more is NO relationship talks. I know how hard it is BELIEVE ME! But it's so important. It alleviates pressure and allows you to be seen in a confident light. They know we want the marriage and most certainly know they can come home even if we don't talk about it at least for a bit. I do think an nonavailability detaching is really important in the beginning stages, most of the books I've read say the same thing. Stop the chase in DR, Release the trap door, in Love Must Be tough by Dr. James Dobson. You can do this I'm hearing your confidence build. Concentrate right now not quite on Plan A'ing but concentrate on 180 and GAL. That's where I started and it gave me the strength to be able to detach and ultimately go to Plan A. What have you done for your GAL? Any classes yet?
I like the tag and go flirting with no pressure, very confident! Girl, go to Hawaii and have fun fun fun! He may expect you to be down about it. 180 about it, talk about it like you are so excited to go with your HOT new self! And expect to have fun!
Me-38 H-38 Married 18years Daughter-17 & Son-9 Discovery of EA/PA 4/23/08 Left home 5/08/08 Moved in with OW 08/01/08
The only rock I know that stays steady, the only institution I know that works is the family. -- Lee Iacocca
