I come from the University of Hard Knocks too!!! I majored in "Regrettable History" and minored in "Misguided Communications".
In reference to your previous post, you stated I know this is against what you are looking for with your current state of health, but I think even if you just act "as-if" you wish to be more self-reliant maybe enough to that he is willing to offer more support.
I agree with you there too. Actually, I've been trying to keep the topic of my health at a distance from my H as much as possible. Of course, to look at me is to be reminded of my condition.
Today I went to the health food store and got me one of those big ole jars of "don't mess with me" weight gain powders. Just had my first glass of it along with some ice cream. Blaaak!!!