Hi Thinking- Sorry that you have found yourself here but this is a great place to get advice and just to vent. I'm no expert but it sounds like your H could be in MLC and if that is the case, this takes time to work through with no guarantee of the outcome. It sounds like your H is still at home which can be good and bad. Good because I thinks your M stands a better chance of surviving BUT it will be harder on you while your H goes through this. I am sure you have read all the advice of GAL (getting a life), detaching and having no expectations. To make it through this you really do have to drop the rope and realize that the M you once had is gone. Keep working on yourself and discovering what makes you happy and in time you may be able to build a new and stronger M.
Originally Posted By: ThinkingItThru
In early Oct I told him that I was giving him space, but I would be available to talk when he was ready. He immediately told me at this point that he had no feelings for me and hadn't had any for a year. [shock] He was hoping that whatever this was would just "go away". He indicated during this conversation that he might be open to getting some help, but he never pursued it.
Twenty months ago when my H dropped the bomb, he told me he had nothing left to give and that he was empty inside. He is very slowly and cautiously trying to work through it and come home. It is a long process but it sounds like your H understands that this is something he is going through and not some permanent change. This could be a good thing.
About your H going on your business trip...hmmm...that is a tough one. I am sure that you feel like if he were to go, it could be a good opportunity for you to reconnect but if your H is in MLC he is not in a place where he can connect with you. If your H does go with you, you have to have absolutely no expectations about what will happen on the trip or when you get home. Can handle that?
