txmom, welcome back - glad you had a good time and did some things that were fun and for your ego. Flirting, dancing and being appreciated for it are good things when your self esteem is low. Did great with H when you left but then when you came back (I know the feeling) you got needy, and started thinking about the future. I know we go over this in our minds all the time but we cannot bring it up to our H's (I am trying to give support to both of our bad habits!)
After the night of confrontation with H and OW (the closet hider), I realize how in the fog my H is. This is a real love A (or what he perceives), he is protecting her which hurts me but it gave me a slightly harder shell. I keep thinking of him as my H but he is is on a different alien planet and he thinks that he is the BF to the OW and he has checked out of our R.
T2L, I have read almost the whole book (95%) and took the quiz. Question to you. I know you said detach and "be nice" also, Is that what you did the first 4 months? Or did you really drop the rope? Did your H call you about your D17 when she did not talk to him or did he let it ride? I do want to go to Plan A but I do not think I am ready and I think since he has been into this A for only 3/4 months he is still in the "high" of the A. I came to work yesterday to post the conflict of interest notice highlighted with her initials on top but the building was closed. I am going later today and put it up. This is the closest I can get to exposure.
Also I was going over to the gym today for yoga, and who is in the smoke shack? H and one of his workers, I drive by and smile and wave (H did not wave back), got to say he looked like h3ll. All that drinking. life goes on.
Me 53 H 50 D16, D29 M 22 years bomb 7/08 INH - alien pod replaces H 8/08 - OW (direct report), I work there also bomb II - H moves 10/1 expose ow 10/22 D to be final 9-09
