H moved out so I guess we are separated - pls help

[courts0818]

Loving_Life,
Good suggestions. Thank you. May I ask your opinion on a few things? First, H moved out a week ago. I have not asked where he is now living and I have not sent him one text, placed one call or email to him. I did respond to a few messages from him, but I haven't initiated any communication between us. That has not been easy and honestly, I feel like a doormat.

I know that he is staying at his boss's condo. His boss sent me a text telling me he wasn't picking sides - that's the only reason I know where he's now living.

How can I be sure that I'm not making him think that he can do whatever he wants without any consequences? I feel that by sitting back and not saying anything that I'm giving him the impression that he can just walk all over me and I won't do anything about.

And it's so hard to show him that I'm getting a life and doing things because he's never here. Last week I saw him for a total of about 6 hours.

I thought about telling him he needs to keep our daughter at least every other weekend. I can't really ask him to do anything during the week bc of his hours. If he keeps her, I want him to be at our house so I will just find another place to stay - probably with my parents, but I will give him the impression that I'm out having a good ole time.

Because he is still paying all of our bills, I think he feels like he's still being there for us - which is not the case. We need more than his money.

What do you think?