WAW Won't Communicate At All

[MsMelancoly]

Seaglass71, My thread that tells my story is - Happy When It Rains - Me Condensed. So you can either look that up or look under my name under posts.

(I wrote an update last night & then my computer went kaput & lost what I wrote .... I hate that. I will try again tonight).

I think the one thing about DBing, that I don't agree with is to not look at the past. I know you cannot focus on the past & your spouses (or your) problems .... but if not dealt with ... they do play a role in today and the decisions you or your spouse may make today. I guess that is just my theory. My H is still dealing with childhood problems. I think he is controlled by fear & his insecurities. His mother left the family when he was 10 or 12. I believe my H deals with problems the same way - by running away & I bet he can never let a woman get too close to him, for fear she will abondandon him. Why doesn't he communicate, because his father was verbally & physically abusive, so he hides how he feels as well.

Maybe - I'm just regressing back to the Whys ..... dunno .....

Am I angry at my H - sometimes - but mostly, I just feel really sad for him. As much as he doesn't want me to - I do understand him, he has gotten too close to me & I still do love him. He can try to control everything he wants .... but he cannot control how I feel about him. More later .....