Trying2Live-Post #3

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Wow, I'm liking what I'm hearing. You see what happens when we Stop the Chase. Instead of trying to escape, the thought processes change to well do I want this.

I think detachment is important, just keep it real light. Mostly I like to think of detachment as just not being available all the time and GAL'ing. I'm glad you are able to work through the controlling thing, I understand that. When we were 1st married I was queen controller, but as I cried out to God to get this out of me he was faithful to do so I just need to naturally do my part and control what I chose to do.
Have you been able to read more the SAA book? I really think your H would do well on it. Sounds like he's already freaking out.
Give it a few weeks of just not being too available. Doing great at not taking every call etc. Go do the Irish dancing, I really think your H would prolly freak out at knowing your still living. When you do talk, keep it real light and cheerful and short just like you did. Hey have a great day talk to you later kinda thing.
This will give you more time to get into the love bank and love busters and the questionnaire, then in a few weeks when everything has calmed down and if you feel like it you can implement a Plan A, but keep in mind it needs a plan B or he'll cake eat forever. Yes we want them to eat cake and remember how darn good it is, while we make those love bank deposits but not forever. Here's something from the guy that wrote the book, you can watch the video or just listen to it.
http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi6806_inf.html