{{{{{T2L}}}}}}}, I missed you this weekend!! I thought maybe you had run away for a 2nd honeymoon!!! joke joke joke. You should be a poet -- I am the lighthouse not the ship, thermostat not the temperature -- where do you get this stuff!! I loved it. So you had 3 steps forward positive (on Saturday) and 2 steps back on Sunday. H sounds like he is in the push-pull emotion. Sounds like the fog is lifting but then OW pulls him back in. I am sure she is starting to get worried so it might be up/down for the next week or so. After all you are the other other woman...New DB term - OOW. At least Sunday you did not have to worry about constantly looking good, watching what you say etc. I know for myself that it was good not having to be all "decked out" since my H was not around.
Well weekend was busy which was good. Worked on the office room, clearing out stuff so we can make it into a media room for D15 and friends. That is goal. Concentrating on my D's and continuing to work on myself. Went with D last night for awhile at the church where they were carving pumpkins for the altar at church. Talking to the youth counselor there and I told her the situation at home. She said she noticed a change in D but I was doing all the right things. She told me to put a front light at night since my H has lost his way and it will be a beacon to find his way home. I really liked that concept. Yoga today at lunch.
This morning H texts D - says I miss you and love you. She did not text him back. Matter of fact she said H does not respect MY wishes that he not call or text. Then older D calls this morning and gets a "boot" on her car for unpaid taxes that were due by end of month ($800 dollars), She had to go pay so I helped her out with that (she makes little pay for her job as group mgr for special needs), so she calls H also to tell him about it. I am driving into work and H calls 3x in 10 min. I do not pick up any of the calls. I go into work and call him at his desk (knowing he is at a meeting), I leave a msg. "this is your wife, you called a few times -- call me on my cell and if I am not there leave a msg". Just now my phone rings at my desk (no caller id), I pick up and it is H. He says you called?, I said I was returning your calls. He asked if I knew D got a boot on car, I said I did and I put some money from my acct to help her get car out. So he starts hemming and hawing -- what do I owe, (I never asked for anything), and I said what do you think, he says well I will pay half but I can't give it to you till next month. (maybe because he has spent a ton of money this month), I said that will be fine. I could hear him trying to start a conversation so I said thank you and take care. H hestitates and says goodbye. I know he wanted to talk but I did not want to get into any talk about D15, R or anything else.
T2L -- This is difficult detaching, but I know that you did that at the beginning also, and with all my emotions scrambled it definitely was easier this weekend because 1. evem though he spent all weekend with OW (I was not obsessing since I did not see him - out of sight - out of mind) 2. having a chance to concentrate just on Ds instead of worrying about interacting with H 3. just truly trying to "let it go and keep it in God's hands" (that control freak side of me I am trying to quell)
I do worry about the love bank side because I know the bank vault is empty since I did not have much opportunity to build anything up since the confrontation. But I pray that OW is starting to draw from her acct. since too much togetherness with constant drinking might have a negative impact.
So where is Marisol, txmom, twinhope, all, faith. Need to know how you guys are doing. Its a new week!
Me 53 H 50 D16, D29 M 22 years bomb 7/08 INH - alien pod replaces H 8/08 - OW (direct report), I work there also bomb II - H moves 10/1 expose ow 10/22 D to be final 9-09
