Gypsy - I like your spunk! Let it out! Too many of us turn our thoughts inward in terms of what we could have done differently to save the marriage. Our ex-spouses are selfish a-holes who did not give a sh*t about their families.
Sure we could have done some things differently, but for most of us who were faithful, this had nothing to do with us. Our spouses in general were very unhappy people who blamed their issues on us. Post divorce, almost everyone I know who started this process is still miserable!
I know what you mean about the finances! What a disaster. All you can do is clear the decks and rebuild.
Right now I am stuck paying a very expensive mortgage on a house that I do not occupy! Drives me nuts. Hopefully it will sell soon so I can truly get on with my life. I have been living with a friend for over a year and cannot get my own place until my house sells. The real estate market is very difficult right now.
So, we are all in the same boat. Let's support each other, make the best of things and move forward. My ex and I separated 1 year ago and things are better today. I feel like I am half way there.
Yesterday I got a little sad thinking about haloween and how I will not see my 7 year old daughter. This stuff is so sad.
