"one thing women don't understand is, us men GRUNT are clueless most of the time. Unless you tell us, and lead us by the hand, you will keep getting the same results."
Men do seem to have the caveman carry-over "grunt".
Truth of the matter is, I have informed my H about my LL, even read him some chapters out of the 5LL book. And I managed to get him to watch the first three and half videos from Michelles' "marriage breakthrough" series with me where she explains in detail the importance of giving your spouse whatever it is that he/she needs/wants even if it doesn't feel comfortable or make sense to the giver.
I've explained in loving detail what I need/want, how it effects me when I do or don't receive it, sent him an email politely outlining the issue and have even demonstrated it to him (spoke to him "words of affirmation delivered with physical tenderness).
Trust me, he's been informed. He has made it patently clear that he does not want to hear about it anymore. He still contends that he should not have to give this to me unless he feels inspired to do so.
So for now, my "free speech zone" is very limited. If I cross over the line, I will have more harsh words to live with and you all know what that does to a person who's LL is "words of affirmation".
I'm in a bit of a quandry, huh.
Oh well. I'll just have to bite the bullet for now.
