Trying2Live-Post #3

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VEry very good 180! Big Pats on the back for you! Day 1 No relationship talks. Now that you have done it once it'll be easier next time. You see the OW for us are not worried about the relationship, they don't constantly ask them their place. They are confident in their place so when our spouses see them they get (for lack of a better word) No nagging. Now I understand w/children there may be times when things must be said, but the No relationship talks it great progress.
I am glad you didn't snoop, this is good for your sanity. You already know enough and what you need to know so not snooping is going to protect you and we all need to protect our selves and the love we have for our spouse or we will hate them at some point and won't want restoration,I learned this from the book I told ya'll about, I still highly recommend everyone in reading it, this is the plan I have been using since Oct 3rd., ITs Surviving An Affair by Willard Harley.

So H spent most of Saturday here stayed until late and was supposed to back Sunday for the day with us. We think since he didn't plan on staying that late the OW must have given him crap when he came home, so he canceled on us yesterday. I told him the kids were disappointed and he got frustrated with us so I responded to him without committing and Love Busters(in the book Surviving An Affair By Willard Harley). I wanted to commit love busting on a national treasure proportions but I held my self. I find it's harder to regain territory when I do that than to just hold my tongue. I didn't not make excuses for the kids and I did not say they are mad at you instead I said the kids are really disappointed we all really wanted to see you today and I understand you work so hard and need the rest blah blah blah. He has said in the past that we don't understand, so I took the opportunity to 180 and be understand and use this as a love bank deposit(in the book).
Anyways, to the opportunity of his cancellation to take a nice nap and relax. I decided since I am the light house and not the ship at see and I am the thermostat and not the temperature that I would disregard his frustrated emails(prolly guilt for canceling) and send him a nice email saying hope you had a good rest, here are the things the kids and I are doing this week are you still able to go....I'm still Plan A'ing(book). Got til roughly Nov 15th. I told myself this morning as a general thought that I am only responsible for me and can only control myself. I am not responsible for H or can I control him, so it makes things easier.

Anyways, so tell me Who is implenting GAL this week eh???? I will be taking a salsa clinic for 2 hours this week in North Hollywood, so I'm pretty excited about that. I think I'd like to implement more so I'll be looking in the local parks and rec catalog for classes. Your local community guide offers a lot of classes through the city and usually very inexpensive so don't forget to look there.