Yes, I definitely agree that you should set that boundary about not coming in to your bedroom. Like beginning with..."when you are bringing the kids home and you come into the bedroom, it feels....and I would like you not to do that any more."
I'm with you on the haircoloring thing, too--even the same color! You just never know how it's going to turn out. My last time I got a reddish shade from "medium ash brown!"
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012