She's probably wondering why you're not putting your foot down.
I don't think she is wondering at all, in her mind we've been working on a divorce agreement for 4-5 months already, so it's clear we're separating, and her actions (to her) are consistent with that. We are simply room mates in her mind.
I'm just going by stories by former waywards that I've read over the years, and my experience has been, that even WHILE they are wayward and even fleeing pell-mell, that they often wonder why their betrayed spouses aren't fighting for them. They often report losing respect for them during this period, and -- since "respect" is very tied in with "love" to a woman -- they actually lose love.
Hell, I think you should do it just because it's "a", effective, and "b", the right thing to do. "c" -- that the wayward spouse can often find such "standing and fighting" behavior attractive -- is just gravy.
So, what ARE your boundaries, and how to you (not your lawyers) intend to communicate and enforce them?
