SPM, you know that didn't literally mean that I wanted to slap him around. It's just as LBS; it's heartening to see a W who is desperately trying to make things better and he seems to want no part of it now. I know that his feelings are his feelings; and I don't know how I would respond. I can tell you that being a DAM in April really didn't work for my M as I tried to recover from W's A back then.
Max, I often worry about the impact that my W being neglectful will have on her children. Given my W's BPD tendencies and the research that I've done on it; I worry that my D might suffer the same fate. Sunday my D was very clingy to me; she didn't want to leave my side. The research on BPD and HPD leans toward a disconnect in mother/daughter bond. I know from listening to my W, SIL, and MIL that my MIL was very disconnected from her children early on. She D'd my W's father early in their lives and had to finish school, work, and had an active social life. My W and SIL were with babysitter's quite a bit.
Now my D might have just been acting like a 4 year old; but I acutely aware that my W's actions will cause some detriment later in life. It may not debilitating; but there will be consequences nonetheless. Now my S, I worry that he'll have trust issues and self-esteem issues because of this. I'll just have to wait and see.
