W2G, I will be bold and give you an advice with this. You obviously know how my life is at the moment. When I had the recent talk with my H I asked him when was his "moment of clarity". He said it wasnt "a moment" and started telling me how he missed the whole package.
When I got home I realised that I was allowing him to have the whole package (except for sex, never asked for, never had it for over a year now), until I finally decided it was over. I think that is when he finally had to face the reality of being divorced and to miss everything and understand the worth of what we had.
I believe we get that caught up in the DB idea and are afraid to rock the boat when the time is right. You have been doing the same thing and it did move you forward to the place of anger no longer existing, of feeling comfortable again. Now he needs to feel how it is to be divorced so he can choose what he wants. Take all the steps, schedules, famillies, vacation, visits, money. With no anger just determined. Never bend about these.
With a friendly voice insist that, that will make you feel better. Let him face the consequences. Let him see what life feels like without you in it. I have faith that he loves you but it is easier/convinient for him to postpone any decisions and as long as you allow it, he will not. Love K
